Recently I have been coaching a lot more.
Because I have joined an on-demand coaching platform.
And this is the #1 suffering I have witnessed – “My boss does not appreciate me.”
I have had many conversations where my clients were in tears.
They felt humiliated, ignored, unappreciated, unwanted.
They questioned their self-worth.
They felt injustice AND helpless.
These feelings spilled over into their lives outside of their offices …
Because a manager made a careless comment, or neglected a budding rift amongst the team, or weaselled out of a difficult conversation …
Bosses, we are bosses, and we have bosses. That means we already know what it feels like to have a good boss, that we actually know how to be a good boss. We just need to work harder to not be a bad boss.
Base on all the coaching conversations I have had, here are 3 things “good bosses” can do, so then you don’t slip into becoming a “bad boss” and wreck souls:
1. Shut up for a tad longer, when you feel the urge to speak.
2. Involve a tad more, when you feel the urge to leave it to the team.
3. Stay in a conflict a tad longer, when you feel the urge to run away.
Go. Just try to be less of a bad boss. You will be surprised how much contentment you will be able to bring to others. Trust me.