How You Make Them Feel

“I love you?” He asked.  “I guess not.”  He was respected by many. I found him manipulative.  He was the kind of bosses who would go full-on “Maya Angelou” and preach, “It’s how you make people feel!” Yet somehow, I would always feel good after chatting with him, after being in meetings with him, even… Continue reading How You Make Them Feel

Take Better Breaks 🏖

Yep. This is the kind of #bossbetter stuff I like to work on. How can we hack a 5 minute break so it feels eternally reinvigorating? 𝗕𝗮𝗱 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝗽; 𝗚𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝗽Time flies by when you scroll through your social media feeds, or play videogames. This one of the worst traps you can set for your break (and your… Continue reading Take Better Breaks 🏖

2 Uncommon Practices To Present Better

If you are the kind that enjoys mind-tricking yourself, you might find these presentation skill practices useful.  Olympian’s Secret  Michael Phelps was going for the 10th gold medal of his career in the 200-meter butterfly race during the Olympics in Beijing. As soon as he dove in, his goggles started filling with water.  “I dove… Continue reading 2 Uncommon Practices To Present Better

Reality Santa 🎅🏼

Santa is your destiny, at home and at work. When parents trick their kids with the Santa story, all they are trying to do is to bring their children a sense of wonder some fun, and to coerce the kids to obey them by fabricating this elaborated hoax of a deer-domineering bigger old man who… Continue reading Reality Santa 🎅🏼

I Don’t Have Anxiety Because …

Today is a holiday. Time to light some candles, eat some cookies, and chill. Anxiety is the party pooper. I have a whole closet of ways to try to combat it. So I am going to unleash them today, so then I get to have a peaceful day off. “I don’t have anxiety because I… Continue reading I Don’t Have Anxiety Because …

Can I Coach Losers?

I love what I do because I get to have invigorating conversations with my clients. But this is a looming threat. I don’t think I am growing. My clients self-select. These are folks who understand the value of coaching. They are people who are willing to pay to get yelled at … They are committed… Continue reading Can I Coach Losers?

Investigate Great Outcomes

Wrapping up on #reframing, I want to look at using self talks as guard rails- guard rails that prevent us from falling when things are going well. When outcomes are bad, we are more receptive to learning and reflecting. We investigate and look into what caused the outcomes: Is it the quality of our decisions?… Continue reading Investigate Great Outcomes

Reframing Touchy Feely Emotions

Let’s continue our journey to explore the dark arts of #reframing. Let’s approach today’s dysfunctional thought a little differently. In addition to rational alternative perspectives, we can always tap into the feeling side of our brain’s sense-making mechanism. In fact, often times, this permission to allow ourselves to “let it (our thinking mind) go” is… Continue reading Reframing Touchy Feely Emotions