“I love you?” He asked. “I guess not.” He was respected by many. I found him manipulative. He was the kind of bosses who would go full-on “Maya Angelou” and preach, “It’s how you make people feel!” Yet somehow, I would always feel good after chatting with him, after being in meetings with him, even… Continue reading How You Make Them Feel
Tag: Emotions
Mood Follows Actions
Science says, “mood 👉🏼 actions.” If woo woo is your thing, then “what we do is what we are.” Growth junkies hack this to level up. #bossbetter bosses use this to max out their teams. When I first got to China, I had to host weekly meetings in Mandarin. My Mandarin was crap. I dreaded… Continue reading Mood Follows Actions
Reframing Touchy Feely Emotions
Let’s continue our journey to explore the dark arts of #reframing. Let’s approach today’s dysfunctional thought a little differently. In addition to rational alternative perspectives, we can always tap into the feeling side of our brain’s sense-making mechanism. In fact, often times, this permission to allow ourselves to “let it (our thinking mind) go” is… Continue reading Reframing Touchy Feely Emotions
Why I Love My Coaching Work
The thing I love the most in my coaching work is to figure out ways to turn theories into practices and make them work for real people: * How can leadership feel less like Hallmark cards and more like LEGO instructions booklets?* How can we make “start with why” less vague and more concrete?* Can… Continue reading Why I Love My Coaching Work